I loved seeing a very honest quote about motherhood by Drew Barrymore during my metro read on the bus today.
"I know it seems like I do everything, but there's so much I had to give up. Things have to go and that's unfortunate. You know that you are going to miss out on your child's upbringing or you realize that your relationship is going to suffer if you work night and day and weekends. Unfortunately, I was raised in this generation of 'women can have it all' and I don't think you can. I think some things fall off the table. The good thing is, what does stay on the table becomes much more important." Originally in US weekly
This quote really spoke to me as I am trying to do it all for sure, keep a good marriage, be an involved mama, propel and maintain my art career AND studio practice, and make money to pay the bills. I too have come to accept sometimes things have to drop off. For instance my house is always a disaster, my clothes are often dirty, and sometimes I miss out on spending time with my kid to do work things and sometimes I miss out on opportunities both work and social to spend time with my kid. I too do not think we can HAVE I T ALL at least not in the way it is being sold to us. But at the same time I would not give up the experience of being a mother or artist for pretty much anything.
Here is to another exhausting day of trying and yet knowing we are not alone.
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That quote definitely speaks to me. Sometimes I feel that society projects this "have it all" attitude about everything. Motherhood has really streamlined my perception of what is important and what isn't. I will never trade the time I spend with my child even though at times I want to work on a specific project. They change and grow so quickly.
Heart this post
You are not alone and nope we cannot have it all... got to pick and choose and try to do our best...
You have plenty of company! It's one huge balancing act, isn't it?
Great quote. I came to that realization a while ago. I can imagine a different life where I chose either not to be with the man I did, or not to have kids, in which I probably ended up being much more successful career-wise. But I chose kids, and I chose to have them with a man whose career has us separated for long periods of time. My own career falls to the wayside, and my house is a mess too, but my kids are happy, healthy, well adjusted people, and that's definitely worth having. :-)
Love all your sharing's on this. It is always nice to know you are not alone. And.. many of my older artist friends remind me that child rearing is just a short part of our lives and eventually we end up back at that place where I time is our own (and usually we miss having to share it with our child!)
but indeed every kiss, hug and little conversation makes it all worth it.
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